REFUSE TO STOP

REFUSE TO STOP

 

 

REFUSE TO STOP
WHATEVER YOU HAVE SET YOUR MIND TO AND HAVE BEEN WORKING DILIGENTLY ON, KEEP GOING! NO MATTER WHAT YOU ARE CONFRONTED WITH, WHAT YOUR NAYSAYERS SAY, REFUSE TO STOP! THERE WILL BE TRIALS AND TRIBULATIONS BUT I WANT TO ENCOURAGE YOU TO KEEP GOING! YOU ARE ON THE VERGE OF YOUR NEW HORIZON!
#YOUMUSTBEONTHERIGHTPATH
#CLOSERTHANYOUTHINK
#JUSTTHETHOUGHTOFYOURFUTURE
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PARENTING WHILE SINGLE

PARENTING WHILE SINGLE

Parenting while single is not easy but it is worth it!

Wow and wow, who knew!

After finding out I was pregnant, I couldn’t wait to share the news, especially after I went through all of the emotions that came popped in my head that cold and snowy morning , December 28, 2000 @ 4:28am.  everything was going well with my relationship, or so I thought.  I was definitely old enough, 31 wasn’t to young in fact, I was probably considered late.  My friends were well into raising their children, I was picking out names, daycares, outfits and nursery themes.

Don’t worry, all will be well!  that what I thought at least, he wasn’t so happy, in fact, he wasn’t thrilled at all!  Talking about the complete opposite of what I was felling and or thinking, so was he!  He knew just how to burst my bubble!  Everything change in an instant.  what was supposed to be the highlight of my life, now seemed gloomed from the start.

What? Why? When did he change?  Did I miss something?  No, no and no, he mislead you.  He wasn’t upfront nor open with you!  Go ahead and begin to pick yourself up and move on. That’s definitely easier said that done.

Talk about conviction and self judgement, I was the world’s worst!  I couldn’t get over all that I had survived only to become a statistic, how did I fall prey and be so foolish!  I cried when I could at other times I put on a brave face and pretended that all was well and my life was grand, while dying a slow death on the inside.  It wasn’t that I didn’t want my baby, in fact she was my miracle child, I just didn’t want my situation.   Couldn’t I for once, have it my way, not!  He never changed and he never stop trying to explain things away.  Oh well, dying and having an abortion were not options, so adapting and adjusting were my only options.   Assess and take note of what I did have and move forward, we have a life to live!

She arrived and she became my reason for being!  She helped me be a better person by being the best Mother I could be!  I think I signed her up for everything she could be signed up for and then some.  We kept busy!  My friend tole me she was proud of me because I kept my word, which she had to remind me of what it was of course.  It was simply that I would raise my daughter with a “full life” mentality and not and “absent father” mentality!  I did.  Even with this thought in mind, I never spoke negatively about her dad to her.   I reminded my daughter that she could only change self and not others, and she was held to the standard of respecting him regardless of his character.

Over the years we had our ups and downs but we laughed a lot and loved much!  We are definitely close and share a bond that allows us to be silly and serious all at the same time.  We have DMT ( dead man talks) and BT ( bubble talks) which allows us to speak our truths in a safe space, priceless!  She tells me that her friends always talk about our relationship as they see it, which warms my heart.  I am eternally grateful to be her mom and I thank God for entrusting her to me, in spite of and despite of.

We have experienced every phase I can think of with anticipation of those to come but I still say, although it wasn’t easy, parenting while single has definitely been worth it!

~Deana

 

PS.  the term single parent came with a stigma of being a statistic, parenting while single gave me the power of having and making a choice!

Change your thoughts, change your words change your words, change your life!

ACCEPT WHAT GOD ALLOWS

ACCEPT WHAT GOD ALLOWS

ACCEPT WHAT GOD ALLOWS

Yes, you had other plans, oh but God said differently! ACCEPT WHAT GOD ALLOWS! It is important to know that nothing can happen without God’s approval. This includes your hurt, pains, sorrows, joys, accomplishments, triumphs, losses, etcetera. Stop worrying about how things coulda, shoulda, woulda worked out and deal with how they worked out! Trust that every action yields a reaction and every cause will have an effect. Everything has a reason, everything has a season and every person has a purpose. So accept what God allows in your life and make the most of it! If God allowed you to go through it, he knew you could do it! Try seeing your worth like GOD SEES your worth! He doesn’t equip those He sends, HE SENDS THOSE THAT HE ALREADY EQUIPPED! I admonish you to ACCEPT WHAT GOD ALLOWS! You may not see it now but your now is laying the solid foundation necessary for your fervent future!!!

#ACCEPT
#ASSESS
#ACTIVATE
#ACCESS

GIVEGODSOMEPRAISE
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TAKE YOUR RIGHTFUL PLACE

TAKE YOUR RIGHTFUL PLACE

TAKE YOUR RIGHTFUL PLACE
It’s time for you to take your rightful place! You have been merely making it, you have been struggling, you have been lagging behind, you have been robbing Peter to pay Paul, you have been down on your luck, you have been denied and delayed, you have been fearful and without confidence. Your finances have been lack, your relationships have suffered, your family have been broken. You just don’t know what to do! You say you believe but your faith is easily shaken! Your trust, well you know, you want to but you can’t trust because you know you will be failed! You are constantly let down, so you have lowered your standards and your expectations! You are afraid to dream or aspire! You worry more about yesterday and tomorrow while you miss living today. ENOUGH IS ENOUGH! It’s time to take your rightful place! The bible says, the Lord is your Shepard, YOU SHALL NOT WANT! YOU ARE THE HEAD AND NOT THE TAIL! THE FIRST SHALL BE LAST AND THE LAST SHALL BE FIRST! YOU WILL BE THE LENDER AND NOT THE BORROWER! YOU WILL BE BLESSED YOU MORE ABUNDANTLY THAN YOU CAN ASK OR THINK! It goes on to say, ACCORDING TO HIS RICHES! THE BIBLE ALSO SAYS, YOU HAVE NOT BECAUSE YOU ASK NOT! YOU WILL BE BLESSED COMING IN THE CITY AND BLESSED GOING OUT IN THE FIELD! HE WILL BLESS YOU IN DUE SEASON! SO FEAR NOT! NO WEAPON FORMED AGAINST YOU SHALL PROSPER! The bible even tells you, NOT TO WORRY! YOU ARE A CONQUEROR! Remember FAITH WITHOUT WORKS IS DEAD! Speak life, BECAUSE THERE IS POWER IN THE TONGUE! THERE IS POWER IN THE NAME OF JESUS! I could go on and on because it is written and the WORD never changes. In stead, I will stop here and say, TAKE YOUR RIGHTFUL PLACE! Your season is now! Move to the front of the line!
#BECAUSEYOURFATHERSAIDSO
#BOUGHTWITHAPRICE
#PAIDINFUL
#WEAREHEIRS
YOURLIFECOACHDEANA

YOU HAVE TO HURT BEFORE YOU HEAL

YOU HAVE TO HURT BEFORE YOU HEAL

You have to hurt before you heal…

Have you experienced hurt? Was it in the past or are you still in the presence of what grieves you? Have you identified your offender? Was it a family member, mate, friend, co-worker, employer or church, etc? Who are you blaming? How fresh are your wounds? Have you masked the pain and placed a big pretty bandaid over your unhealed wounds? Are you barely making it? Are you gonna be ok? I mean really ok? Know that you must attend to and acknowledge your unhealed woes. If you don’t these woes will become the very strongholds that keep you bound. You will not have the life God planned for you, you will cheat yourself out if your destiny. You deserve better! You become comfortable and complacent. You exist instead of living. The bigness in you somehow become minimized. You even convince yourself and everyone around you that you are “fine”. When you are broken on the inside. You pain on the inside is almost unbearable and all you really want to do is cry out. Somehow you have managed to perform day-to-day task without a second thought. Finally, things seem to going ok but then out of no where, you have a flashback. That’s because you haven’t allow yourself to hurt therefore you have not, cannot and will not be able to heal. If you can’t heal, you can’t forgive. Your first step is to allow it to surface, express your true feelings, talk to someone and/or journal. Note: it is not always necessary to confront your offender. Take time to deal with your issue, it might not take 12years, lol. Forgive them and then forgive yourself! If you have never done this, take a few minutes today to stand in the mirror and verbally (out loud) forgive yourself for something you blamed or blame yourself for. It is a freeing experience. To possess the power to forgive is to possess the power to heal, remember, you have to hurt before you can heal!

Remember hurt people, hurt people. So let’s heal together!

I’ll start…
I forgive myself for staying in relationships that I didn’t want in the first place.

I forgive myself for poor choices I made that have lifetime consequences.

I forgive myself for knowing my worth

I forgive myself for loving others more than I loved self

#YOURLIFECOACHDEANA

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YOUR STORY IS NOT OVER

YOUR STORY IS NOT OVER

YOUR STORY IS NOT OVER

Your story is not over but it is ready to be shared. Your story will be the inspiration for so many. As you begin to share your story will become healed and freed on so many levels. Your story will connect you to Gods glory! Your secrets and struggles will be released. No more strongholds! You thought you would take these things to the grave with you but not so! You will bury them but you will still be alive! You will no longer be bound! For such a time as this, you were created! You will tell your story on various platforms but don’t worry you will meet the need that is at hand. Go ahead and take a deep breath because you will be most uncomfortable at first but this is where you will grow. Don’t worry about who or what got away because you are about to become what and who you were created to be! Your story is not over, you are just creating a new and better chapter!

#TELLIT
#TESTIFY
#TAKEYOURRIGHTFULPLACE

YOURLIFECOACHDEANA
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MAKE NO EXCUSES

MAKE NO EXCUSES

MAKE NO EXCUSES

Make no excuses for who or where you are in life! Make no excuses for loving who or how you love But if for some reason change needs to happen, change! You are more than your past! You are not who they say you are! You don’t have to be defined by someone else ‘s definition, instead redefine you and do it now! So, make no excuses, make the necessary changes that your life requires so you can be the best you that you can be! Make no excuse for allowing someone to use or abuse you, instead walk away, NO RUN! You don’t need to have the last word, you don’t need closure, you need to exit and exit now! Make no excuses if you are fat, instead do what it takes to become healthy starting now! Make no excuses for what you have not done, instead recognize and strategize to change things for the better, now! Make no excuses for your life, instead evaluate, take notes and then take action! Make no excuses for accepting less, instead make up your mind to require more from self then more from others. Stop waiting for validation, validate yourself! Speak life! Speak abundance! Speak love! Just speak!!! Make no more excuses, instead make things happen! Please be advise there will be things you want to do BUT THERE WILL BE THINGS YOU NEED TO DO! Make no excuses but make sure you no the difference! As you start your day, make up your mind to make no excuses for where you are at this point, instead make up your mind to make life great for you and yours from this point forward! I love you and I have all the faith that you are ready for such a time as this.

#NOMOREEXCUSES
#EVERYTHINGHASASEASON
#EXPIRATIONDATESMATTER

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NO MATTER WHAT

NO MATTER WHAT

No matter what it is that you are going through, know that you are going to be alright. You were so close to turning things around and out of no where, things started to fall apart. You don’t have to worry because you have grown since your last trials and tribulations and you already know that all will be well. Yes, sometimes you don’t want to be the strong one, the responsible one or even the good one but know that you were created for such a time and purpose as this. You will be able to survive this struggle! You will walk by faith and not by sight. Yes, you will be a light for someone else in the midst of your valley! So I say to you, no matter what it is you are faced with, keep your head high. Keep your chest out and walk through whatever you are going through. You are not only going through, you are growing through this! May your steps be long and your storm be short! I love you and all that you were created to be!!! I am so glad that you are real! It is because of you that my world is better!

#YOUAREGREATERTHANYOURSTRUGGLE
#YOUAREGREATERTHANYOURPAST
#YOUAREEVERYTHINGYOUNEEDTOBE

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YOU OWE IT TO YOURSELF

YOU OWE IT TO YOURSELF

You owe it to yourself to put yourself first! Secondly, you owe it to yourself not to allow others to treat you as they please. You are worthy! You owe to yourself to fight for your beliefs. You owe to yourself to go after what you want and deserve! You are awesome in His eyes and mine! You have doubted yourself and worth long enough, rid yourself of doubt, lack and complacency. It’s ok to be content but you must know the difference. Today try to see in you what He sees in you! Try to imagine yourself living without limits! Now try to do something today to put you one step closer to your goals and one step farther from your doubt(ers)! The time is now, you have waited long enough! Go, do and be what it is you want! I love you and can’t wait to see you at the finish line! Know that the line is not where you are currently. THIS is not, I repeat, this IS NOT IT!

#BECAUSEOFWHOHEIS
#BECAUSEOFWHOYOUARE
#BECAUSEITWASALREADYWRITTEN

YOURLIFECOACHDEANA
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