REFUSE TO STOP

REFUSE TO STOP

 

 

REFUSE TO STOP
WHATEVER YOU HAVE SET YOUR MIND TO AND HAVE BEEN WORKING DILIGENTLY ON, KEEP GOING! NO MATTER WHAT YOU ARE CONFRONTED WITH, WHAT YOUR NAYSAYERS SAY, REFUSE TO STOP! THERE WILL BE TRIALS AND TRIBULATIONS BUT I WANT TO ENCOURAGE YOU TO KEEP GOING! YOU ARE ON THE VERGE OF YOUR NEW HORIZON!
#YOUMUSTBEONTHERIGHTPATH
#CLOSERTHANYOUTHINK
#JUSTTHETHOUGHTOFYOURFUTURE
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PARENTING WHILE SINGLE

PARENTING WHILE SINGLE

Parenting while single is not easy but it is worth it!

Wow and wow, who knew!

After finding out I was pregnant, I couldn’t wait to share the news, especially after I went through all of the emotions that came popped in my head that cold and snowy morning , December 28, 2000 @ 4:28am.  everything was going well with my relationship, or so I thought.  I was definitely old enough, 31 wasn’t to young in fact, I was probably considered late.  My friends were well into raising their children, I was picking out names, daycares, outfits and nursery themes.

Don’t worry, all will be well!  that what I thought at least, he wasn’t so happy, in fact, he wasn’t thrilled at all!  Talking about the complete opposite of what I was felling and or thinking, so was he!  He knew just how to burst my bubble!  Everything change in an instant.  what was supposed to be the highlight of my life, now seemed gloomed from the start.

What? Why? When did he change?  Did I miss something?  No, no and no, he mislead you.  He wasn’t upfront nor open with you!  Go ahead and begin to pick yourself up and move on. That’s definitely easier said that done.

Talk about conviction and self judgement, I was the world’s worst!  I couldn’t get over all that I had survived only to become a statistic, how did I fall prey and be so foolish!  I cried when I could at other times I put on a brave face and pretended that all was well and my life was grand, while dying a slow death on the inside.  It wasn’t that I didn’t want my baby, in fact she was my miracle child, I just didn’t want my situation.   Couldn’t I for once, have it my way, not!  He never changed and he never stop trying to explain things away.  Oh well, dying and having an abortion were not options, so adapting and adjusting were my only options.   Assess and take note of what I did have and move forward, we have a life to live!

She arrived and she became my reason for being!  She helped me be a better person by being the best Mother I could be!  I think I signed her up for everything she could be signed up for and then some.  We kept busy!  My friend tole me she was proud of me because I kept my word, which she had to remind me of what it was of course.  It was simply that I would raise my daughter with a “full life” mentality and not and “absent father” mentality!  I did.  Even with this thought in mind, I never spoke negatively about her dad to her.   I reminded my daughter that she could only change self and not others, and she was held to the standard of respecting him regardless of his character.

Over the years we had our ups and downs but we laughed a lot and loved much!  We are definitely close and share a bond that allows us to be silly and serious all at the same time.  We have DMT ( dead man talks) and BT ( bubble talks) which allows us to speak our truths in a safe space, priceless!  She tells me that her friends always talk about our relationship as they see it, which warms my heart.  I am eternally grateful to be her mom and I thank God for entrusting her to me, in spite of and despite of.

We have experienced every phase I can think of with anticipation of those to come but I still say, although it wasn’t easy, parenting while single has definitely been worth it!

~Deana

 

PS.  the term single parent came with a stigma of being a statistic, parenting while single gave me the power of having and making a choice!

Change your thoughts, change your words change your words, change your life!

ACCEPT WHAT GOD ALLOWS

ACCEPT WHAT GOD ALLOWS

ACCEPT WHAT GOD ALLOWS

Yes, you had other plans, oh but God said differently! ACCEPT WHAT GOD ALLOWS! It is important to know that nothing can happen without God’s approval. This includes your hurt, pains, sorrows, joys, accomplishments, triumphs, losses, etcetera. Stop worrying about how things coulda, shoulda, woulda worked out and deal with how they worked out! Trust that every action yields a reaction and every cause will have an effect. Everything has a reason, everything has a season and every person has a purpose. So accept what God allows in your life and make the most of it! If God allowed you to go through it, he knew you could do it! Try seeing your worth like GOD SEES your worth! He doesn’t equip those He sends, HE SENDS THOSE THAT HE ALREADY EQUIPPED! I admonish you to ACCEPT WHAT GOD ALLOWS! You may not see it now but your now is laying the solid foundation necessary for your fervent future!!!

#ACCEPT
#ASSESS
#ACTIVATE
#ACCESS

GIVEGODSOMEPRAISE
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TAKE YOUR RIGHTFUL PLACE

TAKE YOUR RIGHTFUL PLACE

TAKE YOUR RIGHTFUL PLACE
It’s time for you to take your rightful place! You have been merely making it, you have been struggling, you have been lagging behind, you have been robbing Peter to pay Paul, you have been down on your luck, you have been denied and delayed, you have been fearful and without confidence. Your finances have been lack, your relationships have suffered, your family have been broken. You just don’t know what to do! You say you believe but your faith is easily shaken! Your trust, well you know, you want to but you can’t trust because you know you will be failed! You are constantly let down, so you have lowered your standards and your expectations! You are afraid to dream or aspire! You worry more about yesterday and tomorrow while you miss living today. ENOUGH IS ENOUGH! It’s time to take your rightful place! The bible says, the Lord is your Shepard, YOU SHALL NOT WANT! YOU ARE THE HEAD AND NOT THE TAIL! THE FIRST SHALL BE LAST AND THE LAST SHALL BE FIRST! YOU WILL BE THE LENDER AND NOT THE BORROWER! YOU WILL BE BLESSED YOU MORE ABUNDANTLY THAN YOU CAN ASK OR THINK! It goes on to say, ACCORDING TO HIS RICHES! THE BIBLE ALSO SAYS, YOU HAVE NOT BECAUSE YOU ASK NOT! YOU WILL BE BLESSED COMING IN THE CITY AND BLESSED GOING OUT IN THE FIELD! HE WILL BLESS YOU IN DUE SEASON! SO FEAR NOT! NO WEAPON FORMED AGAINST YOU SHALL PROSPER! The bible even tells you, NOT TO WORRY! YOU ARE A CONQUEROR! Remember FAITH WITHOUT WORKS IS DEAD! Speak life, BECAUSE THERE IS POWER IN THE TONGUE! THERE IS POWER IN THE NAME OF JESUS! I could go on and on because it is written and the WORD never changes. In stead, I will stop here and say, TAKE YOUR RIGHTFUL PLACE! Your season is now! Move to the front of the line!
#BECAUSEYOURFATHERSAIDSO
#BOUGHTWITHAPRICE
#PAIDINFUL
#WEAREHEIRS
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